A Better Marriage

Aug 30 2009
A Better Marriage

1John 4:7-8
2 Corinthians 5:17-19

There is no greater love that u can experience than the love of God. Love him more than u fear him. Once u experience the love of God it enables you to love another person. God doesn't treat u as ur sins deserve, not only does he forgive but he 4GETS ur mess! Aren't u glad Gods love is not peoples love? Not here today & gone tomorrow. As Christians it should be easy for us to encourage others to believe that it's ok u made a mistake because God will forgive u. How dare we lose relationships when God is determined not to loose relationship with us.

7 steps to a better married life:
1) start over (2corinthians5:17) -forgive (4get even tho u remember), justify-be able to say I know u messed up but I'm going to treat u as if u never did
2) more intimacy-more conversation, more sex
3) establish traditions-date nite (the thing it took to get them is the thing it takes to keep them), vacation
4) deal with the interference- don't fight about other people (brother,cousin,friend), keep ur children in their place (NEVER NEVER LET UR CHILDREN SLEEP WITH YOU @ ANY AGE, SICK WHATEVA!!)
5) realized your blessed (value) -75% of blk women between ages 30 & 35 have never been married! It's only 10% for white women. Divorce is costly . Treat this person like ur blessed to be with them.
6) find the balance- marriage is not just spiritual! If ur so saved that ur salvation interferes with ur marriage then u are 2saved! Men & women should not only be thinking of how to please God but also how to please ur spouse. Marriage is Not just love & friendship-do ur duty, respect the role u play in someone elses life..there is no "NO" in ur marriage-ur body is not ur own it's ur partners.
7) get counsel-messages such as this sex in the summer series. Marital counseling.